On Being Naked and Ready for the Leap

I’m taking a leap. It’s a leap of faith, basically, that my life will be as good as it is now on the other side of the leap. And I know it will, but it doesn’t mean it’s been easy, or there hasn’t been serious stretching involved. And here’s the leap. In...

How to End Difficult Conversations in Record Time

I have a colleague who practices the Japanese martial art aikido, and after many years of practice finally earned his black belt in his late 60’s. He attributes the delay in earning this distinction to the fact that it took him a long time to overcome the habit of...

Mastering Crucial Conversations As If Your Life Depended On It (Hint: It Does)

Do you ever find yourself trying to communicate with someone who isn’t hearing anything you say? Perhaps they talk over or interrupt you, or even worse, make you feel bad for saying what needs to be said. Or maybe you try to share something important, that really...

How to Make Stressful Decisions without Taxing Your Brain

I’ve had to make some pretty tough decisions in my life. I remember deciding whether to take a job midway through my career. It offered better pay and more flexibility to handle my small children, but it wasn’t the work I dreamed of doing. It was a hard decision and I...

How to End Suffering Without Being Pollyanish

Have you ever awakened early on a summer morning, anticipating a warm sunny day outside, only to find that the luminous weather forecast had turned cloudy? At least for me, serious disappointment can set in when I see the overcast sky and the needle on the thermometer...